人善被人欺,
马善被人骑.
害人之心不可有,
防人之心不可无.
Saturday, June 30, 2007
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
端午亦称端五 !
端午亦称端五，是我国最大的传统节日之一。“端”的意思和“初”相同，称“端五”也就如称“初五”；端五的“五”字又与“午”相通，按地支顺序推算，五月正是“午”月。又因午时为“阳辰”，所以端五也叫“端阳”。五月五日，月、日都是五，故称重五，也称重午。
此外，端午还有许多别称，如：夏节、浴兰节、女儿节，天中节、地腊、诗人节等等。端午节的别称之多，间接说明了端午节俗起源的歧出。事实也正是这样的。关于端午节的来源，时至今日至少有四、五种说法，诸如：纪念屈原说；吴越民族图腾祭说；起于三代夏至节说；恶月恶日驱避说，等等。
迄今为止，影响最广的端午起源的观点是纪念屈原说。在民俗文化领域，我国民众把端午节的龙舟竞渡和吃粽子都与屈原联系起来。俗说屈原投江以后，当地人民伤其死，便驾舟奋力营救，因有竞渡风俗；又说人们常放食品到水中致祭屈原，但多为蛟龙所食，后因屈原的提示才用楝树叶包饭，外缠彩丝，做成后来的粽子样
此外，端午还有许多别称，如：夏节、浴兰节、女儿节，天中节、地腊、诗人节等等。端午节的别称之多，间接说明了端午节俗起源的歧出。事实也正是这样的。关于端午节的来源，时至今日至少有四、五种说法，诸如：纪念屈原说；吴越民族图腾祭说；起于三代夏至节说；恶月恶日驱避说，等等。
迄今为止，影响最广的端午起源的观点是纪念屈原说。在民俗文化领域，我国民众把端午节的龙舟竞渡和吃粽子都与屈原联系起来。俗说屈原投江以后，当地人民伤其死，便驾舟奋力营救，因有竞渡风俗；又说人们常放食品到水中致祭屈原，但多为蛟龙所食，后因屈原的提示才用楝树叶包饭，外缠彩丝，做成后来的粽子样
Saturday, June 9, 2007
三姑六婆是些甚么人？
关于「三姑六婆」的来历，最早可追溯到明代。
明代有位叫陶宗仪的学者，在他的笔记中便记载了三姑六婆的身分。
清代李汝珍在他的小说《镜花缘》中也曾写过：
「吾闻贵地有三姑六婆，一经招引入门，妇女无知，往往为其所害，或哄骗银钱，或拐带衣物。」
这就是三姑六婆的原意。
三姑 = 尼姑，道姑，卦姑.
六婆 = 牙婆/贩卖人口的女人，媒婆，师婆/女巫，虔婆/鸨母，药婆，稳婆/接生婆.
明代有位叫陶宗仪的学者，在他的笔记中便记载了三姑六婆的身分。
清代李汝珍在他的小说《镜花缘》中也曾写过：
「吾闻贵地有三姑六婆，一经招引入门，妇女无知，往往为其所害，或哄骗银钱，或拐带衣物。」
这就是三姑六婆的原意。
三姑 = 尼姑，道姑，卦姑.
六婆 = 牙婆/贩卖人口的女人，媒婆，师婆/女巫，虔婆/鸨母，药婆，稳婆/接生婆.
5 Ways to Build a Wonderful Life !
1. Live Below Your Means
We all want to buy that new piece of technology, treat ourselves to an expensive night in the town, or take out a loan for the flashy car we can’t afford.
It might feel great at the time but rash spending hurts a lot later on.
Enjoy life’s simple pleasures and save as much as you can. Expensive things don’t create lasting happiness and security. Careful spending will bring you greater leisure and enjoyment in the long run.
2. Put Your Money to Work
Saving is great, but to make the most of your money, you need to put it to work. Good investments can be the difference between retiring in your 40’s or in your 60’s.
If a person in their early 20’s invests 20% of their income in an S&P index fund, the interest they earn will equal their current salary when they reach their early 40’s. They could retire without a drop in income! Wise investing is the surest path to financial independence and it’s something everyone can work on.
3. Educate Yourself
To be happy we need continuous growth. The best way to grow is a lifelong education. This doesn’t mean that you need to pursue a doctorate or spend 2 hours reading every day. Self-education can be anything that takes you out of your comfort zone. The important part is keeping an open mind and searching for fresh ideas and perspectives.
Education builds over time. It might feel like the bits of wisdom you acquire don’t mean much, but over the years they add up to form a wiser, kinder, more interesting person.
4. Develop Lasting Personal Relationships
Suppose you had everything you wanted. Would you be happy without anyone to share it with? The personal relationships we develop with friends and family members are the greatest source of happiness in our lives. Don’t forget about them.
Taking the time to cultivate and enjoy personal relationships is essential to longterm happiness. Without the people you care about you’ll probably be miserable, no matter how successful you become.
5. Work Towards a Dream You’re Passionate About
Even if your life isn’t perfect, you can always build towards a goal you’re passionate about. If you aren’t building towards something, you’re probably stagnating. When this happens to me I start to feel like a victim trapped by my own life. The best way to reverse this is working towards a goal.
We can’t control everything about our lives, but working towards a goal gives us something positive to focus on and lays the foundation for future success. No matter what your passion is, get out there and start doing something.
As Lao Tzu said, "Even a journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step."
Bonus: 6. Stay in Shape
You only get one body. Once it’s been ruined there isn’t much you can do about it. Exercise to keep the rust off. Avoid excessive consumption of damaging substances and unhealthy foods. It may feel like terrible self denial at the time but enjoying good health in your later years is worth the sacrifice.
We all want to buy that new piece of technology, treat ourselves to an expensive night in the town, or take out a loan for the flashy car we can’t afford.
It might feel great at the time but rash spending hurts a lot later on.
Enjoy life’s simple pleasures and save as much as you can. Expensive things don’t create lasting happiness and security. Careful spending will bring you greater leisure and enjoyment in the long run.
2. Put Your Money to Work
Saving is great, but to make the most of your money, you need to put it to work. Good investments can be the difference between retiring in your 40’s or in your 60’s.
If a person in their early 20’s invests 20% of their income in an S&P index fund, the interest they earn will equal their current salary when they reach their early 40’s. They could retire without a drop in income! Wise investing is the surest path to financial independence and it’s something everyone can work on.
3. Educate Yourself
To be happy we need continuous growth. The best way to grow is a lifelong education. This doesn’t mean that you need to pursue a doctorate or spend 2 hours reading every day. Self-education can be anything that takes you out of your comfort zone. The important part is keeping an open mind and searching for fresh ideas and perspectives.
Education builds over time. It might feel like the bits of wisdom you acquire don’t mean much, but over the years they add up to form a wiser, kinder, more interesting person.
4. Develop Lasting Personal Relationships
Suppose you had everything you wanted. Would you be happy without anyone to share it with? The personal relationships we develop with friends and family members are the greatest source of happiness in our lives. Don’t forget about them.
Taking the time to cultivate and enjoy personal relationships is essential to longterm happiness. Without the people you care about you’ll probably be miserable, no matter how successful you become.
5. Work Towards a Dream You’re Passionate About
Even if your life isn’t perfect, you can always build towards a goal you’re passionate about. If you aren’t building towards something, you’re probably stagnating. When this happens to me I start to feel like a victim trapped by my own life. The best way to reverse this is working towards a goal.
We can’t control everything about our lives, but working towards a goal gives us something positive to focus on and lays the foundation for future success. No matter what your passion is, get out there and start doing something.
As Lao Tzu said, "Even a journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step."
Bonus: 6. Stay in Shape
You only get one body. Once it’s been ruined there isn’t much you can do about it. Exercise to keep the rust off. Avoid excessive consumption of damaging substances and unhealthy foods. It may feel like terrible self denial at the time but enjoying good health in your later years is worth the sacrifice.
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